The Aftermath: Reflections On Shaving My Head


It’s now almost two years following my head-shave initiation and many of you have been asking about my thoughts in hindsight.

A little recap: Why did I shave it all off?

Because I wanted to acknowledge my journey from girl to woman and challenge my own self-perceptions of femininity. I realised that a large part of my femininity was attached to having long hair – so what would happen if I cut it all off? Would I feel any less of a woman? Hopefully not, though I certainly had my insecure days of feeling less-than.

In hindsight, I’m really glad I did it and enjoyed every stage of the regrowth. {Prior to shaving my head, I had never had it much shorter than shoulder length. Having a short crop was pretty effortless to maintain and it opened up a whole new world to me in terms of styling -> statement earrings – oh yeah!!}

It was also character building and an important ritual in marking my initiation into womanhood – something we don’t really have in western cultures. So certainly no regrets!

Contrary to any fears I may have had, men still found me attractive enough to talk to and be seen with, I wasn’t shunned by society – although sometimes I was met with sympathy.

Anyway, recently, I stumbled across this video of women talking about their own reasons behind shaving there head and it was humbling to find that a lot of their motivations are very similar to my own.

Check it out:


Jiveny Blair-West is a Dating & Attraction Coach, committed to helping people achieve greater clarity and success in their love life. Her passionate obsession with relationship dynamics has led her to study and unpack the realities of our modern dating culture, the psychology of attraction, sacred sexuality and practical strategies for more effective communication between the sexes. Jiveny is also the Founder of Playdate Adventures - a series of interactive workshops and events around Australia designed to help single men and women date and relate to each other more effectively, playfully and authentically.