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The Aftermath: Reflections On Shaving My Head

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It’s now almost two years following my head-shave initiation and many of you have been asking about my thoughts in hindsight.

A little recap: Why did I shave it all off?

Because I wanted to acknowledge my journey from girl to woman and challenge my own self-perceptions of femininity. I realised that a large part of my femininity was attached to having long hair – so what would happen if I cut it all off? Would I feel any less of a woman? Hopefully not, though I certainly had my insecure days of feeling less-than.

In hindsight, I’m really glad I did it and enjoyed every stage of the regrowth. {Prior to shaving my head, I had never had it much shorter than shoulder length. Having a short crop was pretty effortless to maintain and it opened up a whole new world to me in terms of styling -> statement earrings – oh yeah!!}

It was also character building and an important ritual in marking my initiation into womanhood – something we don’t really have in western cultures. So certainly no regrets!

Contrary to any fears I may have had, men still found me attractive enough to talk to and be seen with, I wasn’t shunned by society – although sometimes I was met with sympathy.

Anyway, recently, I stumbled across this video of women talking about their own reasons behind shaving there head and it was humbling to find that a lot of their motivations are very similar to my own.

Check it out:

Jiveny

Jiveny Blair-West is a coach, writer and workshop facilitator specialising in the dynamics of dating. Her dating philosophy is centred on personal empowerment, acknowledging that attraction and relationship building are skills that can be developed like any other. With this approach, she empowers single people to overcome the blocks and barriers that are getting in the way of a fulfilling love life. Led by a lust for personal growth and development, Jiveny spent a large portion of her 20s living in different corners of the world, exploring different growth modalities and of course dating. This experience of dating within diverse cultures has proved to be invaluable in informing her approach to building strong, resilient relationships – and identifying common pitfalls for any relationship. Having experienced a wide range of relationships; from fleeting romances to committed partnerships, open relationships to toxic dependencies, breaking hearts and getting her own heart painfully broken, Jiveny is committed to helping you find good love and avoid any unnecessary heart ache along the way.