There’s a lot of talk online about being a “Queen” in your love life…

Y’know, to be the kind of woman who only attracts a “King”?

You’ve probably heard it:

💄“Don’t initiate anything – wait for him to lead.”

Including texts, conversations, and opening up emotionally.

💄“Stay mysterious. Never let him know how much you like him.”

Because being warm and open is apparently desperate.

💄“Coffee date? Ew. If he’s not booking a 5-star restaurant, I’m out.”

Sis, he hasn’t even met you yet – why should he be paying for oysters and cocktails?

💄“Always prioritize your purpose over partnership.”

Because needing love is soooo unfeminist… right?

These rules might feel empowering on the surface – but they often just reinforce emotional guardedness, unrealistic expectations, and fear of true intimacy.

And I hate to break it to you, but this isn’t Queen energy!

It’s the shadow side of the archetype…

The Ice Queen.

And she’s quietly hijacking your love life.

This is the nuance that gets completely lost in the online noise…

And it’s exactly what keeps so many smart, successful women stuck, frustrated, and emotionally disconnected from true love.

Because what most people think it means to embody Queen energy?

Too often, it’s actually the Ice Queen in disguise.

She looks empowered on the surface but underneath, she’s guarded, sceptical, and scared to truly let love in.

Here’s how she tends to show up:

❄️ Wielding her independence as a shield…

❄️ Expecting to be let down…

❄️ Waiting for men to prove themselves before opening up…

❄️ Judging his emotional depth while withholding her own…

Bottom line? She’s so focused on spotting red flags, she forgets to actually connect.

As a result, the high-quality men walk away… and you’re left with a smaller pool of options that feel like settling.

I know this because I myself used to be an Ice queen.

And I know how tempting it is to hide behind her strong armour…

Not because you don’t want love –

But because staying guarded feels safer than staying open.

However this is not a useful strategy for building a relationship.

It’s a strategy for keeping your heart safe as you play into the illusion that you’re “taking action” by dating and “putting yourself out there” without really risking anything.

And it ends the same way every time, leaving you disheartened, unimpressed, and still alone.

Here’s what gets missed in all this “high value woman” hype:

👑 A true Queen doesn’t perform confidence – she cultivates it.

Her power isn’t in pretending not to care. It’s in knowing her worth and showing up fully, even when it’s scary.

👑 She communicates her standards clearly and compassionately.

Without games or ultimatums. Just truth, spoken with grace.

👑 She opens AND protects her heart wisely.

She’s not guarded, but she is discerning. Her love is open, but it’s not available to just anyone.

👑 She knows how to receive.

Not with suspicion or scorekeeping – but with appreciation, softness, and joy. The kind that inspires men to give even more to her because they adore her.

👑 She can hold duality.

Strong and soft. Vulnerable and empowered. Open-hearted and boundaried.

She’s not just one note – she’s the whole damn symphony!

In this way, a true Queen doesn’t blindly demand devotion. She inspires it.

So ask yourself:

Are you showing up as someone a high-quality man would want to build a life with?

Or are you unknowingly shutting down good men with suspicion, perfectionism, and already having one foot out the door?

Because here’s the truth:

There are many high quality men out there looking for commitment…

But they’re unwilling to commit to a woman who expects the world yet resists the vulnerability that real love requires.

Sadly they’ve offered their consistency, loyalty, and presence in the past only to be met with projection, power games, or cold withdrawal once the fantasy wore off.

So now?

They’ve stopped overgiving.

They watch, they listen, they move when it feels reciprocal.

These men don’t lack depth or love – they’ve just stopped giving it away so cheaply.

So if you want to call in one of these Kings?

You’ve got to bring more than lip service to what it means to be a “Queen.”

And be someone who’s actually doing the work – the kind of woman who:

🌹 Understands sex differences and knows how to bring out the best in a man

🌹 Communicates with respect, clarity, and compassion

🌹 Sets wholehearted boundaries with grace

🌹 Builds intimacy with an open heart and intentional pacing

🌹 Practices empowered vulnerability that draws men closer, not pushes them away

🌹 Leads with her feminine radiance and inspires men to rise into a higher standard of love alongside her

This is what I teach inside The Alchemy of Attraction.

And Module One: The Queen is ready for you to dive into, the moment you join.

It’s real, it’s honest, and will completely rewire the way you show up in love – without playing games, contorting yourself, or pretending to be someone you’re not.

So if you’re ready to stop performing and start attracting true partnership…

Oh, and one last thing…

The Queen doesn’t ride solo.

Because while she sets the tone…

It’s the multi-dimensional mastery of all 4 relationship archetypes that really seals the deal and positions you as a truly irreplaceable life partner. 💅

Inside AOA I’ll guide you through this journey step-by-step.. 

Join us live or move at your own pace.

Either way this program will change the way you date and relate to men forever.

See what past students have to say about the program:

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With love,