I loved to sabotage things during the early stages of dating. I would write people off immediately over tiny little icks. I had walls up. I would pretend I wasn’t looking for anything serious. I would try and play the dating “game”, but just seemed to always lose.

I’m often asked how I would define ‘love’; a word that gets tossed around lightly, in many different ways every day. Because of the nature of my work, I generally focus on how love relates to a healthy relationship mindset. So how do I define love?

The most important relationship we will ever have in life is the one we have with ourselves. Yep, that might sound clichéd but it’s a cliché for a reason. Because it’s true. Yet so often we run from ourselves, reaching for the next distraction, afraid to face ourselves in the mirror in case we don’t […]

Disclaimer: All responses are general in nature, not specific relationship advice. Hi Jiveny, Do you think it’s possible for ONE person tick all of your boxes? Or is that too much pressure to put onto one person? Thanks, S. Hey S, While this a short question, there’s a bit of complexity we need to unpack […]

Relationship education is a BIG part of what drives me forward with this work as it paves the way for future generations to learn to love better. Below is a video of a talk I did last year exploring our capacity to choose the other parent of our children more consciously. IF YOU’RE THINKING ABOUT […]

Disclaimer: All responses are general in nature, not specific relationship advice. Hi Jiveny, My partner has been pretty silent lately, not having sex, still smiling and giving me kisses but has been saying things I would consider mean and pulling me up on things he wouldn’t usually. I tried to talk to him about it […]