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You deserve a healthy, loving, secure and passionate relationship

You can work through past relationship baggage and break the cycle of toxic patterns

Key dating, attraction and relationship skills can be learned

You can attract partners interested in committed relationships

Dating can be a fun, enjoyable, exciting experience

You can have the relationship you've always wanted

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In a city of millions of people like Sydney, it can be really disheartening when you can't find a genuinely interested partner. Add to that the fact that most of us didn't grow up with the best relationship role models, it can help to have a little extra support and guidance.

Working with a dating and relationship coach allows you to build the skills and mindset required to boost your romantic life. In working with me, you can learn to become the ideal person to attract your ideal partner.

As a love coach, I work with you to unblock the often-unconscious barriers that are keeping you from getting the love you want. Together we can decipher what it is you really want in a partner, rebuild your mindset around love and implement real-world changes that help you to confidently attract the opposite sex.

How would you like to navigate the modern dating scene and experience real connection? Working together through these different stages of the process allows you to build a solid foundation and deep understanding of what's required to connect and nurture a relationship that will last a lifetime.

Combining my own real-world knowledge, years of love coaching experience and drawing on multiple established therapy techniques including Internal Family Systems Therapy, Timeline Therapy and NLP, I provide a heart-centred approach to relationship coaching.

My professional advice, practical support and empathetic approach will allow me to gently guide you towards a more loving and fulfilling romantic future.

Love, Relationships, D​ating & Attraction in Sydney

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As a Dating & Attraction Coach, I mentor and support men and women aged 20-70 to identify and overcome the blocks and barriers that prevent us from experiencing good love. For me, there is nothing quite as rewarding as helping people develop the necessary skills to attract and build a healthy relationship.

It is well understood that we need healthy, intimate relationships to thrive in life. However getting the love you want is not always so straight forward.

Truth is, most of us were never formally taught the life skills of dating, attraction and relationships...

Hi, I'm Jiveny Blair-West. 

In this 15 minute interview Jiveny provides insight into her approach to coaching and a snapshot of the modern dating scene.

Interview on the Core Confidence Podcast

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Dating in Sydney offers an exciting and enjoyable experience – after all, you’re in a beautiful, international city, with countless eligible partners. So why can it feel so disheartening at times!?

Yep, Sydney dating can be challenging, but where there is challenge there is often a great opportunity for personal growth too.

Unfortunately there are times where the lessons can get lost amidst bad dating advice and confusion around what it means to have realistic expectations.

Add to this the fact that many of us simply haven’t grown up with great relationship role-models to learn from, it’s no wonder that we struggle.

When it comes to dating in Sydney, our mindset is key. Approaching the dating scene with a deeper understanding of attraction dynamics as well as what forms the basis of a healthy relationship certainly makes the journey easier.

On my blog and through my newsletter, I share dating stories, attraction tips and actionable insights for you to learn from and take into your Sydney dating life.

And if you are living in Sydney and would like more tailored support then you might want to check out what it means to work 1:1 with me here.

Attraction & Dating in Sydney


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Prior to working with Jiveny I found myself feeling bitter and jaded by the whole dating world and experience. I wanted a solid relationship but fears and insecurities kept rearing their ugly head. This challenge affected my social life because I found it hard to be around my coupled up friends as it reminded me of what I wanted and how far I was from getting it.

Since working together I've been through many different stages and Jiveny has been an asset every step of the way. Firstly there was the single phase, where Jiveny gave me invaluable advice around dating and managing nerves, hopes and dreams. Secondly, there was the hopeful stage of being in something that potentially had legs but then it fell over. Jiveny helped me through the following period of licking my wounds, getting back out there and trying again. Thirdly, I'm happy to say that Jiveny has helped guide me through the early stages of a very promising relationship.

I've now met a partner that I want to commit to in a deep way who is kind, interesting, reliable and ready for the vision I have for my life. We've been together 6 months at the time of writing this.

Working with Jiveny was crucial in empowering myself and giving myself the best shot that I could to have the life that I wanted and deserved.


Before working with Jiveny I had experienced a handful of serious relationships that I had mostly sabotaged. I was also in these relationships for the wrong reasons so I guess they were destined to fail.

I found the work I did with Jiveny ground breaking. I was finally able to get to the bottom of the ‘whys’ and ‘hows’ regarding my failed relationships. She was able to help me to open myself to what I really wanted and let go of what wasn’t working.

I have since found a lifelong partner who I have started a family with. Applying the things I learned from Jiveny to the early stages of our relationship really helped us to progress our connection in a much healthier way. We’ve been together for four years now and have one-year-old twin baby girls. My partner is loyal beyond words - this was something I haven’t really ever been able to say before. He puts his family first and is such a loving and involved father.

I found the work I did with Jiveny ground breaking and have since found a lifelong partner who I have started a family with.


Jiveny has a warm and non-judgmental approach to coaching. I found it fascinating how her questions opened up new possibilities that could be applied to my relationship with my partner immediately. I felt very comfortable working together as I could see that Jiveny really does care about helping people to have a great relationship - with full expression, while honouring each other’s wants and needs.

Thank you for your gift to the world. It is needed now more than ever before as many of us have very poor education and awareness when it comes to navigating the most intimate relating we will ever do!

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Sheridan, 34 | teacher

I was single for about 10 years before I started working with Jiveny and felt like I had lost my way. I wanted to feel more grounded, trust in my decision making and be genuinely confident and happy with who I was so that I could meet someone to share my life with, but constant overthinking, self sabotage and lack of solid boundaries were holding me back.

Since working with Jiveny, I have developed a relationship with a man who lights up my soul and my smile. He is someone I can fully be myself around, who I can lean on and who I have so much fun and adventure with. He is like no-one I have met before and he brings out a better, stronger and more motivated version of myself and I couldn’t feel more grateful for the relationship we have. After 3 years of dating, we’re now married and parents to a beautiful baby girl!

If I hadn’t made the choice to work with Jiveny, I think I would have continued with the uncertainty, self sabotage and the feeling of being stuck for a long time.

Since working with Jiveny I have developed a relationship with a man who lights up my soul and my smile.


When I first started working with Jiveny I was plagued with anxiety that I would never get to have a proper girlfriend. I had low self-esteem and struggled with anxiety.

Well to go straight to the biggest point – after working with Jiveny I soon met someone and now we are building a life together. I’ve also worked through some of the intimacy issues that I have had in the past.

This work has allowed me to become a lot more conscious of myself and how I am feeling, taking the time out to ask myself how I am each day. This has really helped to manage my anxiety. Overall, I found working with Jiveny very helpful.

From anxious to a happy, healthy relationship

MARGARET, 72 | RETIRED Researcher

When I first approached Jiveny, I was very fearful that she would not be interested in me because of my age and my, as I saw it then, failure to establish a successful relationship with a man. But, I was so wrong!

From the very beginning, Jiveny was warm, welcoming, perceptive, supportive and positive. The diversity and range of Jiveny’s skills clearly arises directly from the depth of her experience and understanding of human relationships.

This work has been and continues to be a fascinating journey revealing and clarifying much about my inner self resulting in real and very positive change. I love the way she is able to call out my strengths and deepen my perception even when my emotional state or experience feels dark. She provides concrete, empowering insights and techniques which truly work, and always is empathic and supportive!

Illuminating in often unexpected ways


Jiveny has helped me understand that I needed to work on myself and improve certain areas of my life which I had pushed aside as ‘not important’. Working on these areas has helped me become a more confident person, removed some of my social anxiety and assisted me to step outside of my comfort zone.

Since working together, I have improved my flirting skills and general conversation skills. I have also recognised that most women want a man to take the first step and approach. Together we have worked on developing stronger leadership skills, better understanding women and growing my internal confidence. This has put me in a better position to find the right partner that will complement me in life and has made the dating process a lot easier.

I have improved my flirting and general conversation skills.

Stacey, 34 | Senior Ministerial Adviser 

Most of us have not learnt how to date ‘well’ or with clarity or intention. As they say: luck is not a strategy! Between therapy and talking about your dates with your friends, there is an important but untapped space. Jiveny fills this gap, empowering you to tackle the often confusing world of dating and relating with insight and intention. Her coaching equips you with a different kind of confidence and poise that comes from having a handle on some fundamental relationship truths and wisdom.

Now I don’t second guess my partner’s express interest, affection and devotion to me! I feel cherished and adored and cared for in my relationship. I am also getting more comfortable with letting my partner ‘lead’, though it’s still a work in progress! Most of all, I am confident that we are building a sustainable relationship that will carry us throughout our lives; that we are methodically exploring the right and important ‘big questions’ around values, goals and our life journey together.

I credit Jiveny & The Alchemy of Attraction course with setting me up for long-term, sustainable success with a high-quality partner who is literally the man of my dreams.

Lauren, 28 | digital Marketing Executive

Before working with Jiveny I had just come out of a 6-year relationship and was realising I didn’t want to repeat the same mistakes or be with that kind of person again. After working with Jiveny I experienced a major shift in my dating behaviour. I was much more able to identify partners that were not suitable for me and avoid them, as well as understand how to navigate dating better and really get to know a partner as we built the connection.

Best of all this journey has led me to a healthy, fulfilling relationship where I feel a new awareness and confidence! I know what I want and deserve in a partner and I am able to bring my best self to the relationship. I didn’t think it was truly possible to find this kind of relationship before working with Jiveny.

I didn’t think it was truly possible to find this kind of relationship before working with Jiveny.


I was disillusioned with my dating life and seeking a long-term healthy relationship so I contacted Jiveny. From our very first session, I felt comfortable and excited to begin working with her.

Through our work, she helped me identify my barriers, clarify what I wanted in a partner and what a healthy relationship looked like. I was also able to identify the mistakes I had been making. This work has really helped me to developed much more confidence in dating and relationship and I was excited to put what we worked on into practice.

I am now in the best relationship I have ever had and excited for the future. I attribute this to the work I did with Jiveny. Whether you are in the dating world or in a relationship, I would not hesitate in recommending Jiveny. She has changed my life for the better, making me the happiest I’ve been in a long time.

Jiveny has changed my life for the better, making me the happiest I’ve been in a long time.

*A stock photo has been used in this instance as the client needed to maintain his privacy.


Before working with Jiveny I was struggling with choosing the wrong men and navigating my insecurities. I wanted a serious, committed relationship but I often had trouble keeping guys interested or would wind up chasing them away. Other times, I would go for an easy guy who liked me (which was never very satisfying).

Since working together, I’ve noticed a huge shift in my mindset and approach to dating for the better. I’m much more able to manage my reactions and approach, allowing the guys I am interested in to come to me.

I’ve now met a great guy who is proactive in building a healthy relationship with me and who puts effort in to keep things fun and interesting. Even better he also takes an interest in personal development and makes open communication feel effortless and natural. Overall, I have been amazed with how much I have learnt and progressed and I cannot recommend Jiveny highly enough!

 I have been amazed with how much I have learnt and progressed.


I found working with Jiveny was a valuable process of self discovery. It was helpful to learn the small things that can really make a difference in meeting someone as well as strategies to detach from the outcome of an interaction and be more present with women. The insights and exercises helped me to understand the sorts of things I'd done wrong in the past that most women aren't going to overlook.

Her female perspective was helpful because there are just some things we don't learn or pick up on along the way - sometimes someone actually needs to tell us directly. Also, while Jiveny's coaching is primarily focused on helping us to meet people and find that special someone, I found it also gave me a vehicle to figure out the sort of life I want to be living and how to be happy with or without a partner.

Her female perspective was helpful because there are just some things we don't learn or pick up on along the way


Before working with Jiveny I struggled to attract men who I was genuinely interested in; and whenever I managed to, I found it to be quite the challenge to hold their interest. It made me feel afraid and unworthy constantly; like I needed to prove my worth whenever I felt the other person was uninterested.

I craved to be part of a healthy, committed relationship without having to carry the baggage I’d collated over the years of my childhood. Jiveny has done wonders in showing me where my inner strength was hiding and I learned that it is possible for my wants and needs to be met in a relationship. I’m now 13 months into a new relationship that is healthy and fulfilling and I’d highly recommend Jiveny for anyone looking to refocus their minds and hearts. 

I craved to be part of a healthy, committed relationship without having to carry the baggage I’d collated over the years of my childhood.


I would definitely recommend Jiveny to anyone looking for support in their own journey of personal growth. I have found that working with her has made an astronomical difference to my dating life and the relationships I have with my work colleagues and family members.

I have always appreciated Jiveny's approach to understanding what I need and tailoring our sessions accordingly. Jiveny has also offered additional resources for those like me, who love to self learn. All in all, my work with Jiveny has fundamentally changed the way I view the world around me for the better.

Working with Jiveny has made an astronomical difference to my dating life and the relationships


Before working with Jiveny I had been meandering the online dating circuit for about 18 months with no real luck beyond a third date. Jiveny helped me to understand the destructive patterns I had created for myself and assisted me in developing a greater awareness of the ways in which I was self-sabotaging my love life.

Throughout our sessions together, I felt a genuine sense of care from Jiveny and never rushed. Her course materials and resources are fantastic and really helped me to get clear on what I want from a relationship and why. The best support has been in understanding the decisions I have made and how these have drawn the wrong kinds of people to me in the past. The tools she has given me to navigate dating and relationships are invaluable.

Best of all, I am now in a healthy long-term relationship with a wonderful man.

The tools she has given me to navigate dating and relationships are invaluable.

*A pseudonym and stock photo has been used in this instance as the client needed to maintain her privacy.


Jiveny gave me permission to speak openly about some of my deepest fears, anxieties, desires and dreams and was completely present with me as I talked. Her questions guided me to self-assess and reflect on my own beliefs and attitudes in ways that I had never considered before.

Through this, I discovered new ways to think about and overcome habitual thought patterns that had been preventing me from self-acceptance. Most of all, Jiveny helped me identify the deeper core feelings and unmet needs stopping me from living my life fully. After our coaching sessions I've felt a deeper sense clarity, confidence and a true sense of empowerment.

Clarity, confidence and a true sense of empowerment

We all need love. In many ways, relationships are one of the most important aspects of being human. Saying that, finding true love and co-creating a healthy relationship doesn't always come easily to us. There are skills that need to be learned and developed in order to get the relationship we want in life.

My clients are intelligent, switched-on people who are either in a relationship, dating or at least thinking about dating. I work with women and men of all ages, helping them to embody the tools for passionate, secure and healthy intimate relationships.

While no two people are the same, what my clients share in common is a commitment to taking charge of their own happiness, prioritise building love, and practice healthy relationship skills as they navigate the modern dating scene.

My approach as a love coach is focused on supporting you to become a valuable partner as you learn to recognise and overcome the ruts and obstacles that have been preventing you from experiencing the relationship you want.

Most of all, I offer actionable and practical, real-world insights that will help to enhance your self-esteem and lay the groundwork for all your future relationships.

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