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When it comes to dating, many of us have heard the term “red flag” before. What might be less clear is how to identify a true red flag? And while we’re on the subject, what about green flags? To help you out, here are 10 red flags and their green flag alternatives…

10 Red Flags & Green Flags to Keep an Eye on When Dating…

Attachment Styles Dating Relationships

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Why do some people tend to be more aloof and unattached in their relationships, while others are more codependent and need more reassurance? Attachment theory, studied since 1958, explains how different people have different relating styles. Understanding our own default style can help to explain many of the patterns and challenges you may face when […]

Understanding Attachment Styles

Online Dating

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Warning, this article contains references to sexual assault that some readers might find disturbing…  Recently Australian investigative journalism program Four Corners and Triple J Hack launched an exposé into the dark side of Tinder. In this disturbing report several women came forward to tell their stories of how some opportunistic sexual predators have been taking […]

The Dark Side of Tinder: Staying Safe While Dating Online

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I’m often asked how I would define ‘love’; a word that gets tossed around lightly, in many different ways every day. Because of the nature of my work, I generally focus on how love relates to a healthy relationship mindset. So how do I define love? Or perhaps more accurately, suggest that we think about […]

Re-Defining Love: A Dating Coach’s Perspective

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I’ll Let you in on a little secret… Good love & healthy intimate relationships did not always come naturally to me. Perhaps that’s why I’ve dedicated my life and career to understanding these things.  As I complete the manuscript for our upcoming book ‘How to Make the Biggest Decision of Your Life’ I’ve been reflecting […]

The Available / Unavailable Pattern

Relationships

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The most important relationship we will ever have in life is the one we have with ourselves. Yep, that might sound clichéd but it’s a cliché for a reason. Because it’s true. Yet so often we run from ourselves, reaching for the next distraction, afraid to face ourselves in the mirror in case we don’t […]

Building The Most Important Relationship You Will Ever Have

Attraction

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It was midday and I was on my way to a first date with a guy I’d been crushing on for a while… Finally, I was about to go on a date with someone I was genuinely interested in! I had already spent over an hour preparing, blow drying my hair, doing my makeup and […]

The Quest To Impress: A Modern Dating Myth

Online Dating

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As I recently wrote about here, now that so many of us are stuck at home, digital dating is fast becoming the new normal. Dating Apps are experiencing record engagement and many of their users are picking up the phone or turning on the camera to get to know their latest match. Still, for many […]

The Dos & Don’ts of Digital First Dates

Online Dating

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When much of the world started living under lockdown just a few weeks ago, I wondered what this would mean for people’s dating lives… Surprisingly, as people have started to settle into quarantine, the latest stats have come out suggesting the online dating world is absolutely flourishing. Many dating apps and websites are reporting a […]

Digital Dating in the Time of Corona

Dating

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  When I want to end a relationship I just say,‘You know, I love you. I want to marry you. I want to have your children.’ – Rita Rudner   Perhaps one of the most overlooked ideas in the dating world is the concept of pacing. Pacing is all about moving at a similar speed to […]

The Thrill of The Chase: Dating While Pacing

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As a Dating & Attraction Coach, I mentor and support men and women aged 20-70 to identify and overcome the blocks and barriers that prevent us from experiencing good love. For me, there is nothing quite as rewarding as helping people develop the necessary skills to attract and build a healthy relationship.

It is well understood that we need healthy, intimate relationships to thrive in life. However getting the love you want is not always so straight forward.

Truth is, most of us were never formally taught the life skills of dating, attraction and relationships...

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