LESS EGO / MORE SOUL

People often ask me how I manage to travel so much, so here’s eleven tips to make it happen for you.

1. Save. As you already know, to travel, you need to get good at saving. I have a separate travel-savings account and essentially put all of my discrepancy income in there as soon as I get paid. And once it goes in, it doesn’t come out until I’m actually booking my trip. On top of that I have a regular transfer set up of $14/week inspired by Chris Guillebeau’s comment: “most people don’t realize that if they just put $2 aside each day, they could go on an international trip every 2-3 years”. This brings me to my second tip…
   
   
2. Don’t buy dumb shit. I try to lead a minimalist lifestyle and when I am in a frivolous mood I browse op-shops (it’s always more fun than regular shopping). I also buy all my food, fresh and organic form the local farmers markets for less than $50 a week and keep eating out to a minimum (I prefer my own food more most of the time anyway). It might seem painfully obvious, but I watch so many people around me buying crap they don’t need on a regular basis.  Listen up: it’s about quality over quantity. My own personal mantra is live simply so that you may simply live.
   
   
3. Learn to Share. Following on from my last point, sharing at home is a great way to save and ensure an abundant and luxurious lifestyle without the financial debt. If fashion is your vice, organize to swap and share clothes with your friends. If you’re looking at getting a new thing (e.g. surfboard, kitchen appliance or whatever else) at least consider the option of sharing the costs with your housemates. In terms of on the road, share your everything– your food, you’re clothing – whatever you have, and watch it manifest three fold.
   
   
4. Travel light. I once met an inspiring man who traveled with little more than the clothes on his back. I’ll never forget what he told me “the more you own, the more you are owned”. This is an invaluable reminder. When I travel, I take no more than three carry on size bags, and I can usually get away with taking it all on board with me when I travel domestically. This also allows me to save a little on airfares. I promise I’ll do a more in depth post on this in the future, but for now, its suffice to say that less really is more. Thoroughly consider what you take with you. You want to be prepared but not over prepared as this will only weigh you down.
   
   
5. Learn to detach. We all love souvenirs, so in the vein of traveling light, it can be nice to shed belongings as you go. I have a loose rule; whenever I buy something I give something away. Its cool to know that there are parts of me scattered all over the world with the people who have bought light to my journey. This can also be an extra kind of currency and keeps things fresh and interesting. As the streets put it “I came to this world with nothing / and I live with nothing but love / everything here is just borrowed.”
   
   
6. Travel hack. Do your research. Sign up for email alerts on upcoming travel specials. If you’re traveling domestically – book your own flights. If you’re going international, talk to multiple travel agents to get a good deal and don’t be shy to ask for a better price. Once you arrive, talk to the locals to find out where the best cheap eats are, along with any other conveniences like free internet.
   
   
7. Network. Couchsurfing.org is such an amazing resource for the savvy traveler. My own experiences have only been positive. For those of you who haven’t heard of it, Couch Surfing (CS) connects travelers with potential hosts, encouraging a worldwide network of avid explorers. It’s a great way to save on accommodation expenses and meet amazing people!
   
   
8. Develop a talent. Busking is a great way to support your travel habit as you go. Whether it’s making music, dancing, performing or making art, do not be afraid to put yourself out there. I know it might seem daunting, and believe me, if you told me I’d be busking eight months ago, I’d tell you you’re dreaming. But honestly, I’ve found that it really adds to the travel experience on so many levels. Firstly, you get to recoup some of your travel costs – I’ve made up to $365 on a good night, and funded most of my Tasmania trip on just a few hours of jamming. Secondly, it’s a really fun way to meet people – I enjoy it more than clubbing. Thirdly, it’s just a really cool way to share your art with the world. Ultimately you want to develop a skill that is portable, cheap and most importantly enjoyable.
   
   
9. Volunteer. Festivals are so much fun, but they are also a lot of work to organize in order to run smoothly. More often than not, event-hosts will offer workers discounted tickets and food for a half-days work, so it can be really worthwhile enquiring. Make sure you get in touch with the organizers early on though as such opportunities tend to go fast.
   
   
10. Make travel an educational investment. When one travels personal growth is inevitable, sure, but are you making the most of the opportunities? Travel can be a great way to pick up a new language or unique skill that could well inspire your future livelihood. There are plenty of NGO’s around the world that offer unique learning experiences – often including accommodation and food for little or no charge.  WOOFING is a great example of this, as travelers are offered free food and accommodation in exchange for working just four hours a day on organic farms. Plus, it’s a great way to learn about gardening and sustainability.
    
    
11. Be spontaneous. There is an old Huna proverb that states “Energy flows where attention goes.” When I hear about a festival or a nearby town that sounds like a place worth visiting, I simply make the choice to go there. I don’t worry too much about the details – just book a flight and let the rest fall into place. In terms of budgeting, I usually base it on my usual spending + and extra $50 per week. This budget generally covers my food and transport and the odd local attraction. In the words of Nike: Just do it.

I dive far and deep into the swimming pool and resurface beneath the sun. I’d rather be swimming in the wild somewhere, where the water isn’t treated with chemicals – somewhere that I don’t need to worry about being found naked in my own backyard by another family member or a gardener.

Its not so much the fact that they might see me naked that causes me to be concerned – I am quite comfortable in my earth body alone or with others. No, it’s the fact that other people make it weird. I know this because I’ve been “caught” before – I laughed while they blushed and backed away, afraid to see me exposed as human – just like them. I long for the day when there is sufficient  context in our society so that a naked body does not need to be sexualized.

I look at the artificially clear water and laugh at yet another example of our culture attempting to control our environment. We swim in swimming pools so we can see the bottom; so we can know with certainty who or what we are swimming with. So we know for sure that we won’t be attacked by a shark or stung by a jellyfish because we don’t really know how to share our space with other wild animals. Such an upbringing led me to fear swimming in natural environments for far too long. Exposure was the only remedy.

This brings me to fear.

Fear is incredibly attractive, just not in any way that you’d want it to be. It’s magnetic in the sense that it’s fueled by our thoughts and emotions which are key ingredients for manifesting. But what is the purpose of fear being so damn creative when it ultimately leads to pain and suffering?

It’s as if Life is challenging us, whispering: live through this, as we are bought to face our fears, one by one.

Life’s message is simple: There is nothing to be afraid of. By experiencing our fears first hand, we are given the opportunity to realize that pain is never as debilitating or painful as we tend to expect. As the Yoga Sutras of Patanjali state, if you are not your mind, nor your body, who feels the pain?

With this in mind, both fear and pain become potential keys to seeing through the delusionary nature of the everyday world. Yet, the more our culture seeks to control our environment in an effort to minimize the risk of pain (as if it could ever be separated from life itself) the more our fears become augmented and attractive.

Fear breeds tragedy, yet with fear, we are shown not to fear.

Last week I shared with youDavid Deida’s metaphor of the stained glass window.

Running with this theme, I’d like to explore with you how this theory can be really useful when applied to our relationships as a form of “energetic yoga”.

But first, it’s important to get a grip on the illusions and delusions we tend to fancy ourselves with when new relationships are manifesting.

For example, how many times have you found yourself placing a potential lover on a pedestal?

I know I have. I’ll catch myself thinking things like he’s so beautiful, perfect – whatever – while me…well, I’m probably not his type.

In this mindset I watch myself become small as I try to remain incognito, avoiding eye contact etcetera. I tell myself that when I am “fixed” I can be with someone like him, but until then, I have a lot of work to do.

I think it’s pretty common to put potential lovers on a pedestal like this, neglecting to recognize that while they may be beautiful, fascinating and appear confident – they are just like you and I – human, with their own fears, flaws and insecurities.

As the saying goes:

The biggest mistake we can make is to compare our own insides with another’s outsides.

We ALL doubt ourselves from time to time. No one is flawless and as long as we are living and breathing, we all generally seek to evolve and grow beyond our present state. This is life’s innate beauty – it’s strange and imperfect, and somehow incredibly endearing.

Knowing this, Deida’s notion of “spiritual practice” can be a very liberating tool as we allow ourselves to share in the humour of our varied forms – as we are.

Here, the trick to relating with one another is not to untangle one’s self completely. But rather, to find a way to project the knowing I am light through every cell of one’s own contorted shape as a gentle invitation from one human being to another.  This is a particularly useful practice during those moments where one may not feel so strong, interesting or beautiful

It’s kind of like psychically saying “Okay, I’m not perfect, and chances are you aren’t either, but despite my flaws, I am also fucking brilliant and I got a lotta love to give – do you want some?”

I am incredibly curious about this kind of “energetic yoga” which I have found to be so mysteriously effective in attracting – not just the opposite sex, but new friends, mentors and experiences.

Know this, there is beauty in dysfunction and attraction in acceptance.